[–]TwoRoads2Travel [score hidden] 14 hours ago* (0 children). Something is alive and then it���s dead. I feel like she's "learned the skill" of putting herself to sleep. You can read 100 stories here where the medical team coerces mom into getting pitocin, tells her lie in the bed for hours at a time, does cervical checks without consent, and so on. Don't get me wrong, I did have some strong cravings that I really wanted to satisfy (and I did), but there weren't too many of those when thinking about the whole 8 months I was pregnant. I decided to follow the method in Ferber's book about reducing feeding at night. But I do want to like the appearance of my body again... for myself. By DAY 3, she was going to sleep at 7:30pm, and we were down to only 30 minutes of crying before going to sleep! However, I've had multiple nights where she's slept 8 hours in a row! Broadly put, it���s about American mothers��� dire lack of help, and in this respect ���Bringing and more power to them. However, this one didn't really resonate with me--it relied more on anecdotal proof (I'm much more of a "research and studies" gal), and the extinction method didn't jive with me. I had to stop reading because I felt so angry at our system and how little it does to support mothers and children, despite certain segments of our society proclaiming the family is the most important part of American life. I also think sometimes women that are FTMs think xyz will be ok, but in retrospect, you can never truly know until you have had your birth. I stretched out time between night feedings by a half hour each night. The experience of pregnancy and the data in Expecting Better by Emily Oster (which suggests that the choice is often between a rougher labor or a rougher recovery in statistical generalizations, of course individual experiences differ widely). What that French doctor said about “giving birth on your back with your legs open” .. sounds really okay to me. A night waking used to be quickly and quietly sticking the boob in her mouth, nursing for 10 minutes, and then both of us falling back asleep. Middle class and lower class women overall will never have the opportunities to catch up to men if the burden keeps falling on them. Kept thinking, maybe I’m judging this book too harshly? I feel more frustrated that she's just pointed out all of the structural differences in French vs American society that make it more difficult for an American woman to be supported to go back to work and be herself without sacrificing the care of her child or paying amounts that few can afford. I don’t mean to be presumptuous as I said I’m not yet pregnant, and I could do a complete 180 later, but I’ve still seen folks who pregnant yet but who already have detailed plans/expectations. ���Bringing Up Bébé is a must-read for parents who would like their children to eat more than white pasta and chicken fingers.��� ��� Fox News ���On questions of how to live, the French never disappoint. I always make sure I shower and I do my hair and make up nearly every day if I can. For me, that's the biggest injustice of patriarchy (old men deciding what should or shouldn't be publicly funded and expecting women to stay at home or be rich enough to afford tons of care, or lucky enough to land a lucrative part time job that pays the bills but doesn't require more than fulltime nanny and daycare). I did a lot of research, and tried many different things. It's time to go to sleep." She seems so much happier now that she's sleeping longer chunks at night! [score hidden] 15 hours ago (3 children). On Days 4 and 5, we had a bit of backsliding, and drowsy but awake worked about half the time. Anyway, I’m curious if you’ve done much research into different birthing techniques and preferences, or if you’re choosing an epidural and back labor because it’s the standard in the US? Malpractice lawsuits are a huge issue for doctors in the US. [–]pockolate[S] [score hidden] 16 hours ago (1 child). It reached the tipping point yesterday when he hid the formula so I'd have "no choice" but to breastfeed our daughter. But I guess the lesson is, even not having a plan may not go to plan.. haha. This weekend I met my friend Samuel at the park. Don’t get me wrong, I did find the French attitude around birth rather austere and I do believe that women have the right to birth how they want and I appreciate that American healthcare seems to be much more open to that. I probably put on 5-10 lbs more than I needed to. I followed Ferber's technique of waking her up 15 minutes earlier every day, to try and shift her sleep schedule to be earlier. I really appreciated the view in the book that you don't need to give up everything about yourself in service of your child, and that this isn't even necessarily good for the child. Which leads me into her descriptions of their attitudes around birth. I actually posted a cry for help here on BtB about how to reduce wakings at night, but only received comments saying that I shouldn't night wean (Advice on coaching baby not to need the boob so often at night?. But I know so many miserable American mothers who have given up everything and make choices they are deeply unhappy with, who don't feel like themselves, but they derive their self-worth from this sacrifice and they are quite depressed, and hey, maybe that's not a healthy societal pressure to put on women? , [–]PootatoMama [score hidden] 15 hours ago (0 children), I read the book and enjoyed it (as an American no less). [score hidden] 7 hours ago (1 child). Off. This is a big difference between doctors and midwives. For example, as other said laboring on your back is shown to lead to more complications and a higher chance of a cesarian. I did more research, and I ended up with the following hypothesis: I decided that this problem was due to a "delayed sleep phase"--basically, baby was going to sleep too late, and sleeping in too late in the morning (after crying for several hours, she would pass out around 10pm and would wake up for the day around 9am). I used to live in France, and it's expected (and common) for babies to sleep through the night starting at a couple months. you're going to have criticism no matter your choice, because there is a choice to be made. I think there was still something there that’s helpful in just the sense about maintaining your identity. And I say that as a mom of twins...I just choose to prioritize looking and feeling my best over other things (say maybe doing the dishes), [–]ironbasementwizard [score hidden] 15 hours ago (1 child). Then inevitably comes something like, French women don’t breastfeed because their husbands think it’s unattractive for a woman to use her breasts for something other than pleasing men. On Day 3, it worked for three (of the four) naps, PLUS it worked for bedtime! and join one of thousands of communities. And yes, I’m certain much of it has to do with social safety nets that French women have access to and I fully support those measures here. Bringing Up Bebe by Pamela Druckerman: This book is a fun read, but I especially enjoyed the different cultural perspective. [–]talkytalkytime [score hidden] 11 hours ago (0 children). Lol. I’m an American living in Germany, FWIW, so the expat angle appealed to me. America is litigious as fuck. I don’t disagree with you! However, waking so often at night isn't the norm elsewhere in the world. You lazy woman. She is relieved that nobody bothers pregnant people for drinking coffee (great!) Definitely a good call to exercise moderation. A new French parenting book, Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting,' has recently caught fire in the ��� I think childbirth is one place where you need to be flexible but it’s absolutely ok to have preferences, and everyone should be educated on their options so they can advocate for themselves. However, I honestly think that without all this work, we'd still be having a really rough time with sleeping. ). So comments like "I haven't taken a shower in days" that I see do not reflect my experience at all. On Day 1, this only worked for one nap. So put on those skinny jeans, bitch, because … you will feel so much better looking beautiful again after having your baby!” . The author seems aware of this but thinks it is good, actually, because it is so successful at keeping women thin. I am first trimester, don’t have a birth plan at this point except for some vague ideas, but I will say, one of the hardest things about pregnancy so far has been the loss of control. Then on the very next page after this statistic, the author backtracks and says fathers do help out because she sometimes sees “scruffy” dads taking kids to the park. If you were the type who liked sweatpants and no makeup before pregnancy, then that’s fine to continue afterwards. Do you have any other information/sources about other cultures who have the expectation that their infant will sleep ��� 100%. Gonna stop now as this is really long winded, but curious what others who read the book think about it and also what I’ve said here. I started keeping a sleep log, which has been tremendously helpful. . One. I happen to live in a New York City neighborhood that���s home to a number of French families. So the legal motivation is actually worse for medical outcomes! I heavily relied on three books when I was getting through this process: Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems by Richard Ferber: I loved the information on sleep in this book. I find it interesting to learn about how other cultures do things, but I also find it hard to put aside my very American individualism. I never actually used the Ferber method of CIO! Other things I started that may have helped these "going to sleep" issues: I streamlined our bedtime routine and do the same thing for naps AND bedtime: read a book, dim the lights and put on the white noise, bounce on the yoga ball while singing the same two lullabies, put her down. [–]coffee-and-poptartsFTM | Baby Girl due Jan ‘21 [score hidden] 12 hours ago (1 child). On Night 2, baby girl could feed every 2.5 hours, and so on. I actually really vibe with the “don’t rock the boat, just order off the menu” mentality, but I’m more about autonomy when it comes to giving birth. I was a whole person before pregnancy, now I’ll be a mother in addition to that, not instead of. (This is noted in multiple sources, and here's an article that talks a bit about it). Since Day 5, I've been able to put her down "drowsy but awake" for almost all naps and bedtimes. Can we have the good food but not shame moms for keeping on baby weight? [–]lirulin17 [score hidden] 16 hours ago (6 children). Get any audiobook FREE during your Free Trial. I opted for no pain medicine with my next birth. Not only would it be good for my mental health to sleep in longer chunks of time, but it would also be healthy for baby--having longer, uninterrupted chunks of sleep is good for brain development. I actually posted here, asking for help (Help! FTM 19 +4, I had my anatomy ultrasound today. [–]Allibob1 [score hidden] 14 hours ago (0 children). It makes it almost impossible to strike the healthiest balance for many women. I think a lot of birthing people need more control. In essence, I was stretching out the time between night feedings by a half hour each night. Here it is for your enjoyment . I'm also a big believer that if a woman wants to work on her sex appeal it should be for herself (because it makes her feel better/more confident etc), not because she feels she owes it to other people, including her husband. . These days, I spend less than 5 minutes getting LO down for naps, she is put down awake and puts herself to sleep, and she sleeps 6-8 hours in a row at night (usually only wakes up for one night feed). [–]beetFarmingBachelor [score hidden] 12 hours ago (0 children). Not even because I believe they’re all automatically better approaches, but because they just encouraged me to not just take for granted all of the cultural norms and practices I’ve gotten used to. I also have worked towards putting her down more and more awake. In fact I had the exact opposite reaction as the OP to that quote from the doctor. [–]pockolate[S] [score hidden] 16 hours ago (4 children). I just don’t want to feel pain and I want myself and my baby to be healthy. It just got me thinking that maybe the French approach is simply a more practical solution.. not necessarily “better” but kind of just taking the current beauty standards in stride and coping accordingly for their own sanity... if that makes sense? ENDLESS BOUNCING (i.e. I gained 12lbs with my baby and was back in pre-pregnancy clothes a week later, no stretch marks or anything. Ugh. I guess I just found their lesser tolerance for guilt refreshing and something I’m thinking more about implementing in my own life now. I know that pregnancy is always uncomfortable, but you know what else is painful and exhausting? Not to mention the chefs preparing fresh, real food for those children. I agree with many of your points, but the reason to move around during birth is because it actually helps the labor process along. In fact they think it’s adorable, and believe men are just biologically worse at doing things like booking a babysitter which …. Google has many special features to help you find exactly what you're looking for. I sometimes joke that I would like to have a Queens birth , So when I read this book I wrote a novella-length response that I typed up but never posted. So this caused me to realize that these things I take for granted are fairly arbitrary cultural constructs, and not automatically the best way to live. As much as I hate to admit it, I definitely used pregnancy to indulge more than I normally would. I’m not asking people to justify to me why they don’t want an epidural btw, just wondering if anyone else feels the same as me. I’m an American parent through and through, apparently. ": How reading about ��� But at the same time I found it an effective point to illustrate how extreme American individualism can be compared to other wealthy Western countries, and how possibly this leads to so much additional anxiety and neuroses that wouldn’t exist if we weren’t overwhelmed with so much choice over everything. Anyway I wanted to vent because the author is so uncritical of aspects of French life that are clearly toxic. If she's awake in bed, but happy and quiet, I leave her alone. Small outerspace themed nursery - Old house, Better late than never. If it���s not one of the trio then, well, someone���s got a big surprise. Anonymous said: dude stop Is there somewhere was one of the best smut i have read in my life!!!!! We get a lot of that as expectant mothers in the US. I broke two bills by gaining 35 lbs. In general I found a lot of the attitudes she described to be a healthy dose of perspective for me. You hear this a lot, often as a moral judgement like, oh those terrible selfish people who just want to ruin doctor's careers for a quick buck. I agree cancel culture can be toxic but boy people love to pull that out for the wrong reasons. Tiger Mom, roared onto the pages of the Wall Street Journal, enflaming American parental sensibilities with tales of denying her children playdates, rejecting her daughter's handmade birthday ��� I still keep the sleep log, since it really helps me track her naps! Made me feel so jealous. After a few weeks, I felt like I had really locked down the "getting to sleep" issue. It is very obvious that French culture (the way it’s described here, by an American author) has an undercurrent of sexism and body shaming. no this isn’t a circus or a zoo, you’ll give birth on your back like everyone else”. No epidural for baby #2 was a very easy choice for me! Ask maybedefinitely404 Anonymous gma ask Muppen draws It looks like bebe Virgil is shushing Patton Like No I'm not heavy quiet you xD Meanwhile Patton is struggling help him Had to compare to one of the lads instead of a random character~ Pat and bebe Virge would be quite similar in size xD Wouldn't stop him from trying to carry the bebe tho of real people’s feelings but I’m kind of taking it as more of a theoretical approach. Please enjoy these two short videos of my daughter punching herself in the face and trying to walk up my uterine wall. And the quality of the care providers when it's a respected, well-paid profession... [–]pockolate[S] [score hidden] 16 hours ago (0 children). So I can only find glowing reviews of this book online and I feel like I’m taking crazy pills here. Don't say that word!" put down "drowsy but awake"). Yes I agree with this 100%. Advice on coaching baby not to need the boob so often at night? The author acts like these things are an inseparable whole package but they aren’t. Delivering on your back lying down is useful for doctors to be able to assess where you are, but it's a terrible position for labouring, and again carries with it significant risk to both the mother and the baby. The second thing is some sort of performative martyrdom on behalf of women trying to win points for how devoted they are to motherhood which frankly just doesn't seem healthy for anyone. The whole free daycare and preschool thing!! Chua outlines the severe 'worse than helicopter mom' regime she imposed on her two daughters, Lulu and Sophia, to ensure their academic success, a strategy she ��� I don’t mean to be presumptuous as I said I’m not yet pregnant. So they push for a situation they can best control, because at least they are trained to address complications specifically from labor and delivery. It took about a week to fully equilibrate. [–]sakijane [score hidden] 14 hours ago (1 child). Reddit gives you the best of the internet in one place. I was ready to, but never ended up needing it. Anyway since French parents spend park time hanging out and drinking coffee, these sightings are hardly evidence of a hard working dad. The thing is, there are so many things about France that are great for parents, like the 16 weeks of maternity leave, subsidized daycare, and free pre-K. Like, can I have that stuff but without the deadbeat dads please? Wow that sounds great, I wish my OB would dismiss and ignore my preferences, what a feminist system this is! The problem for me is a lot of these attitudes are rooted in really deep patriarchy and negatively effect a lot of women, especially women of color. . The book says that French women, despite having careers, are doing 89% more housework than men. Epidurals can be great, they can also slow down labour and lead to a higher number of interventions. Furthermore, according to both my pediatrician and modern research (Ferber talks about it in his book, for example), a four month old baby should only have to feed 1-2 times per night, and a five month old baby should only have to feed 0-1 times per night. Having had an epidural, there wasn’t any sleeping until time to push for me. While other friends have had detailed preferences with regards to pain management, interventions offered and after birth choices. She’s got big skates to fill if she wants to be as good as her sister. Also, if she woke up, then she would need bouncing again! Can you share what resources you read to lead to your labor choices as well as what you're using for learning the birthing techniques? I’m definitely open-minded to the fact that my mind could completely change later on. Sidenote: this technique actually worked too well, and she overshot the mark, haha. I suppose the upside of a society that is very community-oriented is that while there are seemingly fewer choices, you won't be getting that same criticism. But at the same time I found it an effective point to illustrate how extreme American individualism can be, This to me doesn't represent American individualism, instead it's low key horrifying. I will not be feeding my kid anything that resembles a typical American kid’s diet. They weren't that bad so I'm not super wed to going unmedicated, but your comment struck me as reasonable and objective (and not extreme) and I'd love to learn more!! I feel like if I continue to bounce her or interact with her, I'm getting in the way of her falling asleep. If it wasn't working, I would just bounce her to sleep and try again the next nap. I also found the “bounce back for your husband” message to be a little misogynistic. I feel like a lot of the American "i haven't taken a shower in days" type stuff, or the "i never have time for myself" type stuff is a result of 2 things: shitty husbands/partners who don't step up and do their share (which, in France, seems to be mitigated by their excellent affordable child care). However, once I started this process, if she woke up "too early," then I would have to get her to fall asleep without feeding her--she would cry, and it would be a longer process. [–]pockolate[S] [score hidden] 14 hours ago (0 children). I decided that we needed to tackle the dreaded "drowsy but awake." It sucks that the system is so broken that hospital policy is written by lawyers. I dunno. Looking for a new voice in practical parenting advice & evidence-based insights from top parenting experts? [–]lirulin17 [score hidden] 16 hours ago* (3 children). That is the conclusion that readers may draw from Bringing Up Bébé.��� ��� The Wall Street Journal I think there are a small number of people who truly don’t care how they give birth, who are fine being on their back with their legs spread, etc. Chuuya: - All he saw was red Yay hero dad??? The overt “do it for your husband!” messaging did rub me the wrong way in some parts but I feel like it’s more that putting in the effort to look good for your romantic partner often makes you feel good. ... Bebe is hands down the funniest character on the entire show. Directed by Howard Hawks. She only cried for one to two minutes before falling asleep each time! Yep you heard it here moms, the secret to being as happy as the French is to accept that even though you and your husband work full time, you’ll be doing twice as much house work for the next 18 years and you should just decide this fact makes you happy actually. while pregnant. Oh I loved this book I read it before TTC and again during my third trimester! Multiple reasons - it didn’t fully take in my cervix, just my legs, so I still felt the contractions (On pitocin) but couldn’t move so I had a panic attack. I decided that this was untenable, and things needed to change. I think medical advancements are amazing of course, but our bodies weren’t necessarily made to give birth on our backs or while completely numb; the French way of doing things is more for the convenience of the doctors. The other naps, I had to bounce her to sleep as usual. [–]pmmeyourpetphoto [score hidden] 15 hours ago (1 child). in a way I can see how it must be easier for sure to just go with the flow along with everyone else! It's important for her to learn that she can be safe and happy by herself (she doesn't need me there all the time). https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352013219301309. I look back at where I was a month and a half ago, and I am SO HAPPY I am no longer there. For example, I see many people concerned about the epidural because they want to be able to walk around. With Katharine Hepburn, Cary Grant, Charles Ruggles, Walter Catlett. jump to content. And I want to emphasize that it all comes down to personal choice—there are pros and cons to every decision here, and no single technique is right for everyone. This reminded me of an article I read several years ago about the book Bringing Up Bebe, about parenting insights gleaned by an American mother living in France. 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